What if your husband didn’t tell you until a year into your marriage that you share the same name as his dead first wife, or that he buys the same expensive presents as he does for her (even though she passed away years ago). Would you be freaked out or believe… all normal there.
This is the issue in Am I the Asshole today, one of the great reddit subforums that provides with many dangling questions.
Here goes: “This is actually a really weird situation I’m currently in. My husband and his wife had an amazing relationship.”
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“They had an accident which killed his wife, but my husband survived. This happened years ago. I understand that it was a very traumatic experience for him. We’ve been married for 7 years and we have a 5 yo daughter together. We have an amazing relationship. He has this habit of buying me expensive presents. An year after being with him, I discovered that his wife and I shared the same name. I asked him about it and he told me that it was not one of the reasons he was attracted to me.”
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“After we moved in together, he converted our backyard store room into her memorial. It has her pictures and other stuff belonging to her. And everything he buys for me, he buys for her. Literally everything. He got me new ring for Valentine’s day. It looked amazing. And guess who else he bought that for? Even my daughter is asking me who that lady in our backyard is. I don’t how she knows, but children are very smart and she keeps pestering me about it.”
“I just cant help feeling that I’m just a replacement. If she were alive, I’d never be here. I just feel like her doppleganger.”
“And we got into a big fight about this. I told him that this cannot continue and I feel really insecure. But he refuses to understand. He told me that he loves me and I’m the woman he chose to be with and I should never feel insecure about someone who passed away. I just cannot understand his argument.”
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